How emotions keep us thinking in the past and prevent us from change
How emotions keep us thinking in the past and prevent us from change
A habit is a redundant set of automatic unconscious thoughts behaviors and emotions that are acquired through repetition.
The habit is when you've done something so many times that your body now knows how to do it better than your mind.
So if you think about it people wake up in the morning they begin to think about their problems those problems are circuits of memories in the brain, and each one of those memories is connected to people and things at certain times and places, and if the brain is a record of the past the moment they start their day they're already thinking in the past.
Each one of those memories has an emotion, emotions are the end product of past experiences. So the moment they recall those memories of their problems they all of a sudden feel unhappy they feel sad they feel pain now how you think and how you feel creates your state of being so the person's entire state of being when they start their day is in the past so what does that mean, the familiar past will sooner or later be predictable future so if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with your destiny and you can't think greater than how you feel our feelings have become the means of thinking by the very definition of emotions your thinking in the past and for the most part you're going to keep creating the same life.
So then people grab their cellphones they check their WhatApp they check their text they check their emails they check facebook they take a picture of their feet they post it on Facebook they tweet something they do Instagram they check the news and now they feel really connected to everything that's known in their life and then they go through a series of routine behaviors.
They get out of bed on the same side they go to the toilet they get a cup of coffee they take a shower they get dressed they drive to work the same way they do the same things they see the same people that push the same emotional buttons and that becomes the routine and it becomes like a program so now they've lost their free will to a program and there's no unseen hand doing it to them.
So when it comes time to change the redundancy of that cycle becomes a subconscious program so now 95% of who we are by the time we're 35 years old is a memorized set of behaviors emotional reactions unconscious habits hardwired attitudes beliefs and perceptions that function like a computer program so than a person can say with their 5 percent of their conscious mind I want to be healthy I want to be happy I want to be free but the body is on a whole different program.
Leaning to change in a state of joy rather than suffering
So then how do you begin to make those changes, well you have to get beyond the analytical mind because what separates the conscious mind from the subconscious mind is the analytical mind and that's where meditation comes in because you can teach people through practice how to change their brainwaves slow them down and when they do that properly they do enter the operating system where they can begin to make some really important changes so most people then wait for crisis or trauma or disease or diagnosis no they wait for loss some tragedy to make up their mind to change and my message is why wait and you can learn and change in a state of pain and suffering or you can learn and change in a state of joy and inspiration.
I think right now the cool thing is that people are waking up that's really interesting and where I found the deepest hooks into how powerful this can be for somebody is when you talk about trauma you've talked about how people experience a traumatic event but they then basically rehearse it and how that then has this knock-on effect so what is that why do people find it so hard to get past trauma the stronger the emotional reaction you have to some experience in your life the higher the emotional quotient the more you pay attention to the cause in the moment the brain puts all of its attention on the cause it takes a snapshot and that's called a memory so long-term memories are created from very highly emotional experiences so what happens then is that people think neurologically within the circuitry of that experience and they feel chemically within the boundaries of those emotions and so when you have an emotional reaction to someone or something most people think that they can't control their emotional reaction.
Well it turns out if you allow that emotional reaction it's called a refractory period to last for hours or days that's called the mood I say to someone hey what's up and so I'm gonna move well why are you in a mood well I had this thing happen to me five days ago and I'm having one long emotional reaction if you keep that same emotional reaction going on for weeks or months that's called temperament why is he so bitter I don't know let's ask him why is he so better why are you bitter well I had this thing happened to me nine months ago and if you keep that same emotional reaction going on for years on end that's called a personality trait and so learning how to shorten your refractory period of emotional reactions is really where that work starts so then people when they have an event what they do is they keep recalling the event because the emotions of stress hormones the survival emotions are saying pay attention to what happened because you want to be prepared if it happens again turns out most people spend 70% of their life living in survival and living in stress.
So they're they're always anticipating the worst-case scenario based on a past experience and they're literally out of the infinite potentials in the quantum field they're selecting the worst possible outcome and they're beginning to emotionally embrace it with fear and their conditioning their body into a state of fear do that enough times body has a panic attack without you you you can't even predict it because it's programmed subconsciously so then you say to the person why are you this way and they'll say I am this way because of this event that happened to me fifteen or twenty years ago and what that means from biological standpoint is that they haven't been able to change since that event so then the emotions from the experience tend to give the body and the brain a rush of energy so people become addicted to the rush of those emotions and they use the problems and conditions in their life to reaffirm their limitation so at least they can feel something.
Time to change
So now when it comes time to change you say the person why are you this way well every time they recall the event they're producing the same chemistry in their brain and body as if the event is occurring firing and wiring the same circuits and sentence the same emotional signature to the body what's the revelant behind that well your body is the unconscious mind it doesn't know the difference between the experience that's creating the emotion and the emotion that you're creating by thought alone so the body's believing it's living in the same past experience 24 hours a day seven days a week 365 days a year and so then when those emotions influence certain thoughts and they do and then those thoughts create the same emotions and those same emotions influence the same thoughts now the entire person's state of being is in the past so then the hardest part about change is not making the same choice as you did the day before for a period and the moment you decide to make a different choice get ready because it's going to feel uncomfortable.
The bigger thing is that we we keep firing and wiring those circuits they become more hardwired so there you have a thought and then the program runs but it's the emotion that follows the thought if you have a if you have a fearful thought you're gonna feel anxiety the moment you feel anxiety your brains checking in with your body and saying yeah you're pretty anxious so then you start thinking more corresponding thoughts equal to how you feel while the redundancy of that cycle conditions the body to become the mind so now when it comes time to change the person's steps into that river of change and they make a different choice and all of a sudden they don't they don't feel the same way so the body says well you've been doing this for 35 years well you're gonna just stop field suffering and stop feeling guilty and stop feeling shameful and you're not gonna complain or blame or make excuses or feel sorry for yourself long the body's in the unknown so the body says I want to return back to the familiar territory so the body starts influencing the mind.
Then it says start tomorrow too much like your mother you'll never change this isn't gonna work for you this doesn't feel right in so if you respond to that thought as if it's true that same thought will lead to the same choice which will lead to the same behavior which will create the same experience which produce the same emotion I want to talk about that notion of give me a little more detail what you mean by the body becomes the mind or the unconscious mind what do you mean by that exactly well those are two different things your body is your unconscious mind in a sense if you're sitting down and you start thinking about some future worst-case scenario that you're conjuring up in your mind and you begin to feel the emotion of that event your body doesn't know the difference between the event that's taking place in your world our world and what you're creating by emotion our thought alone so most people then they're they're constantly reaffirming their emotional states so when it comes time to give up that emotion they can say I really want to do it but really the body is stronger than the mind because it's been conditioned that way so the servant now has become the master and the person all of a sudden once they step into that unknown they'd rather feel guilt and suffering because at least they can predict it.
Being the unknown is a scary place for most people because the unknown is uncertain you know people say to me well I can't predict my future I'm in the unknown and I always say the best way to predict your future is to create it not from the known but from the unknown what thoughts do you want to fire and wire in your brain what behaviors do you want to demonstrate in one day the act of rehearsing the mentally closing your eyes and rehearsing the action they're rehearsing the reaction of what you want or the reaction of what you want by closing your eyes and mentally rehearsing some action if you're truly present the brain does not know the difference between what you're imaging and what you're experiencing in 3d world so then you begin to install the neurological hardware in your brain to look like the event has already occurred now your brain is no longer a record of the past now it's a map to the future and if you keep doing it priming it that way the hardware becomes a software program and who knows you just may start acting like a happy person.
And then I think that the hardest part is to teach our body emotionally but the future will feel like ahead of the actual experience so what does that mean you can't wait for your success to feel empowered you can't wait for your wealth to feel abundant you can't wait for your you're a new relationship to feel loved or your healing to feel whole I mean that's the old model of reality of cause and effect you know waiting for something outside of us to change how we feel inside of us and when we feel better inside of us we pay attention to ever or whatever caused it but what that means then is that from the Newtonian worlds that most people spend their whole life living and lack will hitting through something you change out there what do you mean the Newtonian world a Newtonian world is all about the predictable it's all about predicting a future but the quantum model of reality isn't is about causing an effect the moment you start feeling abundant and worthy you are generating wealth the moment you're empowered and feel it you're beginning to step towards your success the moment you start feeling whole your healing begins and when you love yourself and you love all of life you'll create an equal and now you're causing an effect and I think that's that the difference between living as a victim in their world saying I am this way because of this person or that thing or this experience they made me think and feel this way when you switch that around you become a creator of your world and you start saying my thinking and my feeling is changing an outcome in my life and now that's a whole different game.
And we start believing more that we're creators of reality so how do we go from okay I have this negative emotion it's controlling my life it's got me in this cycle of I think about this emotion which triggers a chemical reaction which trains my body to feel that way which makes it easier more likely I will do it again and so now I'm in this vicious line unconscious and it's unconscious right and you you said does your thinking create your environment unders your environment create your thinking which I thought was really really interesting so how do we then go from that like mechanistically to begin this visualization process of something that's empowering its me in a different state is my future self is it meditation is it what does that look like if you're not being defined by a vision of the future then you're left with the old memories of the past and you will be predictable in your life and if you wake up in the morning and you're not being defined by a vision in the future as you see the same people and you go to the same places and you do the exact same thing at the exact same time it's no longer that your personality is creating your personal reality now your personal reality is affecting or creating your personality.
Your environment is really controlling how you think and feel unconsciously because every person everything every place of the experience has a neurological network in your brain every experience that you have with every person produces an emotion so some people will use their boss to reaffirm their addiction to judgment they'll use their enemy to reaffirm their addiction to hatred to use their friends that we affirm their addiction to suffering so now they need the outer world to feel something so to change them is to be greater than your environment to be greater than the conditions in your world and the environments is that seductive so then why is meditation the tool well let's sit down let's close our eyes let's disconnect from your outer environment so if you're seeing less things is less stimulation going to your brain if you're playing soft music or you have earplugs in less sensory information coming to your brain so you're disconnecting from your environment if you can sit your body down and tell it to stay like an animal stay right here I'm gonna feed you when we're done you can get up and check your emails you can do all your texts but right now you're gonna sit there and obey me so then when you do that properly and the you're not eating anything or smelling anything or tasting anything you're not up experiencing and feeling anything you would have to agree with me that you're being defined by a thought right.
So when the body wants to go back to its emotional past and you become aware that your attention is on that emotion and where you place your attention is where you place your energy your siphoning your energy out of the present moment into the past and you become aware of that and you settle your body back down in the present moment because it's saying well it's eight o'clock you normally get upset because you're in traffic around this time and here you are sitting and we're used to feeling anger and you're off schedule oh it's 11 o'clock and usually check your emails and judge everybody well your body's looking for that that predictable chemical state every time you become aware that you're doing that and your body is craving those emotions and you settle it back down into the present moment you're telling the body it's no longer the mind that you're the mind and now your will is getting greater than the program and if you keep doing this over and over again over and over again over and over again just like training a stallion or a dog it's just gonna say I'm gonna sit and the moment that happens the body's no longer the mind when it finally surrenders there's a liberation of energy we go from particle to wave from matter to energy and we free ourselves from the chains on those emotions that keep us in the in the familiar past and we've seen this thousands of times in fact we can actually predict it now on a brain skin.
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